Isn’t it strange that when a girl acquires some authority – she is often instantly tagged “Bossy”!!
While, if it is a guy holding same responsibilities, he is praised for his leadership qualities.
Also, dominating natured girl gets this comment frequently – “I feel sorry for you husband….you would be micromanaging each n everything all the time!!”
And for a guy who ‘dictates’ plans to everyone around him gets “How lucky his wife would be to have such a well organized husband”
Wow!!!
And what more surprising is about 98% of people around me are sexist!!
10 comments:
absolutely rite.fully agreed wid u..
"Micromanaging"?? I don't know ANYONE... well now I do... who would have used that word ;)
But glad to see you alive suddenly.
Why do you seem to be going through multiple crises?
Hmm..Well I guess it depends on an individual..I know there are people (guys) around me who look up to girls who take responsibility and are good planners and these guys prefer that their better half should plan every detail. The reason they give is they have less to worry about planning and all the stuff..everything is taken care and they have to enjoy. Also its their belief that better planners make better homes.
So dont worry Sukanti about people who are sexist, sooner or later they would realise that they are wrong...:-)
Very true.. the reason is: though we say that we are modern, we are not yet modern in our thoughts.. n still live in the men dominated mindset...
(My earlier comment was eaten up, I hope I am able to write the same stuff again..)
While I agree with you for whatever you have written, tell me what do u have to say about this:
Isn’t it strange that when a boy gives more attention to his looks and etc – he is often instantly tagged “natki”!!
While, if it is a girl spending hours in front of the mirror, she is praised for her (acquired fake) beauty.
Also, watchful n cautious boy gets this comment frequently – “I feel sorry for you. Your wife would be controlling u in every sense!!”
And for a girls who ‘never has an opinion’ is many a times termed “How lucky her husband would be to have such cooperative spouse”
The point i am trying to make is, it is not only females who suffer due to this sexist chauvinism.
By default, certain qualities/characteristics have stuck with certain genders, and though wrong, most people follow it and taunt/comment others when they find an anamoly.
(Sorry for a comment longer than the post)
Go sushrut :)
for nice reply ......
Though it does not make any difference anyways......who cares abt wht ppl say :)
Bird
@ Sushrut
nice one!
well...a girl or a guy who spends much time in front of mirror....are nataki!
and a wife without any opinion is stupid....
and I agree toatally ...with sexist chavunism....its just painful to digest the view that leadership qualities are for men.....
I think it is all overrated. I do know wives who micromanage and it is pretty bad. At the same time I have never heard a 'dictating' husband being called 'well-organized'. They are called dominating. Also, every relationship is different. Sometimes what meets the eye, is far from the truth.It is no more a man's world.
If there are MCPs, then there should be FCPs (or FCBs, if you know what I mean) too. Would this article label you as a FCP / FCB? Would you count yourself in those 98% of the people who you call sexist? Give it an insightful thought ... :-)
Question of importance here is why would a husband dictate? Or be hen-pecked for that matter? The man of the house thinks he needs to take charge, and he does. The lady of the house thinks she should, she does. A 'bossy' lady is not necessarily derogatory, as you portray it to be. A gray area is perfectly possible too. Its just a matter of filling up a social role in the family.
-AG
What if the female really is bossy? How might she handle the criticism? How do any of us handle criticism?
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