What crap is that?
So no matter how the person acts – you still should not feel bad? Because you should not expect him to be nice in first place!! Don’t I have right to get hurt? So I have to be real blunt in order to not feel miserable!
Well – How much efforts it takes to make someone feel special? Is it really difficult to bring smile on someone’s face? OR is it very simple to hurt someone?
Was Lord Buddha the only person to conceive reasoning behind this? Why is it so hard to actualize No Expectations mantra?
7 comments:
Def. u have right to get hurt.. but then its bad for no one else but you! and its not really difficult to bring smile on someone's face.. but then u need to find that person who really needs it...and yes Expectations is the root of all misery.. thats why its so hard to overcome :)
did anyone tell u something??
u should not give anybody the right to hurt u. but v r humans and its not very easy task. anyways,
keep smiling :)
Why expectations is the root cause of misery?
The reason why we expect something from someone or some situation is because we change our
focus from our abilities from what we can get out of ourselves to that of others. This change
of focus causes us more vilnerable and more the focus shifts the more the vulnerability is.
It is due to this increased vulnerability that we get so easily hurt when our expectations are
shattered.
As far as right to get hurt, well you have the right to do anything to you, you could hurt
yourself, uoset yourself, please yourself. But again its your focus or i would say
your selfawareness of what you want to do to yourself.
Also, if you give yourself the right to hurt yourself, you are giving an opening to all the
elements in the world to come and hurt you.And you definetly dont want that!!!!
Very aptly put in! One should have every right to expect a person to be nice. What's wrong in expecting reciprocal nicety?
I guess what hurts a person is to assume that the other person is going to be nice...nice in a predefined way. And when the other person does not meet those 'expectations' then feelings are hurt.
Am I wrong?
-AG
Should be easy no to stop expecting things from other?.. its actually terribly difficult... many people who try that mantra incorrectly just end up becoming cynical.. i think the only way to go is to not let other people dictate your emotions.. if there is disappointment, make it brief.. make yourself understand your peace and happiness is much more important than what some other person failed to do..
hehe.. my philosophy for the day... btw.. nicely written... do check my blog out.. ajun philosophy maarli ahe :)
You also have the right *not* to be hurt by the circumstances in your life.
The secret here (I believe) is that there is no "right or wrong" about being hurt. While the choice is sometimes difficult, it is not necessarily impossible. Releasing expectations is a skill -like riding a bike. Did you not fall when you learned to ride a bike? I would say to you "to fall when you fall because someday you will have your last fall", but needlessly blaming yourself for falling ...well, that sounds like you have very high expectations. :)
Peace.
Expectation is the cause of misery because it (expectation) needs 'opposite and (at least) equivalent' outcome from subject(s) or object(s) under surveillance.
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